We often talk of a lack of authority in the family and educational centers and it is thought that this is the cause of bad behaviors and low school performance.
The authority has to be exerted the least possible, because each time that it shows, it exposes a wear. It is negative do not use it when it is necessary and it is also negative to use it in excess and end up losing it. When the child accustoms to hear their parents a certain order, he do not pay attention and do his will. For example, it would not be educational to call the child five times to get up when in the last call he still has sufficient time to go to school. It would be more appropriate to call him once with a reasonable time and demand him to get up, even when the risk of arriving late because of his guilt exist. If the authority wears down, each day will have to exercise it more intensely to get the same results and in the final it will be more difficult to regain the lost ground.
It is not good to have an attitude of constant distrust or recrimination before students. Distrusted attitudes make that the child begins to invent lies, such as personal defense.
When the child knows what has to do, it is preferable to release him and act as if we don’t know what happens without saying anything, leaving a margin to his own responsibility. If we have given him our confidence and he does not use it reasonably, later he will hurt disappointed us.
That is why it is good to create in the family and school a climate of freedom where the child feels comfortable without excessive controls. It is not good to express disbelief to the child: education must be based on trust.