Reflection is a human activity necessary to look for the truth and the good, for self-knowledge and action. Reflect, before the action and events, makes possible clarify the purposes, means and consequences, as well as rectify from the experience.
Life often brings us from one activity to another, from one place to another; without we stop to reflect and think about what, how and with what sense we do things.
Juan was aware of his priorities: father of a family, his profession, his friends, and used to reflect on them from the experience. However, lately the circumstances were altering his achieved balances. The reduction of economic resources together with other family changes helped him to realize that he needed to “reflect» «before the events». If we reflect «before» – he said – we will be able to choose what we consider the best and put the means to achieve it.
From his situation, from feeling trapped by the activism, family and professionals tensions, he decided to take the initiative: analyze, clarify his current situation of dissatisfaction. First he would talk to his wife expressing her with sincerity his state of fatigue, the difficulties in the family Business and his mood. By mutual agreement, they decided to prepare things in a way that they would be able to rest a few days in a quiet place. They talked, walked, analyzed situations and established some priorities and the way how to face up to them.
When he returned expressed the need for some changes in the family business. It needed a conversion of construction supplies, this would transform in a few months in a «company of rehabilitation projects.»
Juan was a technician construction engineer and the other two employees could take responsibility for specific tasks. Also, they would be in contact with other professionals and with small companies in the industry. These issues demanded him to think, consult and make decisions.
In the following months, the results began to be evident: optimism, relaxed atmosphere in the treatment with people, work environment (…).
And with this, knowledge of the situations, understanding, commitment, without forgetting the relationship with people, hobbies and the ability to rectify; knowing that, at the end, our successes and mistakes are responsibility of each one.
Today he feels appreciation of the supports that made him reflect, sometimes, with brief expressions of a friend, such as «Juan, you should reflect» or the security and the help of his family.
After having taken as an object of reflection the previous situation motivated by «professional and family tensions, it is required to consider that need in areas more personal, more interior, such as the education, the character and everything that promotes the development of personal potentialities.
The education in its different aspects (human, intellectual, cultural, professional, religious, and so on) is a source of renewal. Thanks to it we can know, understand, reflect, evaluate, judge and apply.
The professional training can suggest us multiple decisive changes: object and purpose of our work, motivation, competence, enhancements, justice, personal relationships (…)
If it is about character, we can consider significant changes in the personal development as of the own knowledge (behaviors, preferences, motivations, actions, omissions, reactions, (…), including in this analysis, how people around us see us: family, work, friends). In this sense, for example, It will be a good help to write with concise expressions, in two columns, the answers to these two questions: 1: how am I? (Manifestations in various situations), how people think I am? 2: Changes that I want to achieve … (What? how? when? where?)
This personal development of taking seriously our lives, of looking for an «accomplished life with a sense», can find an obstacle when we decided to leave it for later, when we have more time, when current problems are over. In this issue of betting on personal improvement, the opportune time is as soon as possible and continuously, periodically reviewing its achievement (day, week, month, etc.) It is a matter of unite what is important with urgency. In this sense, it can help us the simile of the construction of a building, made with bricks, which starts and puts up by placing, technically and in its place, one by one and with the record of days, months and sometimes years of work.