Philosophers taught us that the human being is sociable by nature. However, in today’s society, which is always busy and has an excess of information, it is not always easy to have an acceptable social life.
There are four ways to relate with others:
1. Coexistence is to live next to others but without having personal relations. It is about being among a multitude of people, with whom there is no communication established.
2. Individualism and the tendency to separate from others. Maybe it is due to negative experiences lived with respect to social relations, the human being lives within his or her personal things and creates a personal world inside a crystal ball. Generally, this leads to the lack of information about what goes on around and thus the person loses the chance of benefiting from stimuli that derive from the interaction with others.
3. Conflict with others rises when others’ different ways of thinking are not taken into consideration, but instead constitute as source of separation, fighting, and conflict.
4. Coexistence and living in harmony with others develops when there is a common life, and when experiences, living, and sentiments are shared. The human being tries to coexist with family, friends, neighbors, and at work, etc.
In order to improve coexistence the following attitudes are a must: comprehension (putting ourselves in someone else’s shoes); acceptance (accept someone for who they are, with virtues as well as flaws); tolerance (accept that people have different plans from ours, in other words, accept someone even though they do not share our same ideas).
Maintaining a balanced coexistence requires a lot of effort and we can always learn how to improve it. Natorp the philosopher would say that a human being only becomes human through the community.
Sociability is part of a child’s education. Other than fulfilling the need to communicate, open minded children have a series of advantages when it comes to studying:
– When working in groups, one learns more because one can participate based on the answers and reasoning of the others. The human being cannot reach a true personal culture without having cooperated for the culture of others; the cult human being is always a teacher, according to Willmann.
– Motivation is improved, since studying is no longer something imposed by teachers or parents, but due to a normal activity carried out by a group of friends.
– Among debates and discussions between classmates, students can learn to better justify their own reasoning and become more objective when judging.
Learning how to coexist is a daily task, and contributes to perfecting human life (Translated by Gianna Sanchez Moretti).